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Published in: on January 21, 2011 at 2:42 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Why.

You may be wondering what motivated us to go from big city to small(ish) town.

We made the move to the new town a little over a year ago.  I had just lost a family member that resulted a huge void in my life.  It was that moment that I began thinking about all the things I had missed out on while on my adventures.  I was required to re-evaluate the things that really mattered to me and not just today but in the bigger picture.  There I was, in my late twenties, in a serious relationship and it was time to establish what I wanted and what I needed to do in order to make it happen.

Approximately a year earlier, my father had been diagnosed with brain cancer. I could not fathom missing out on anything else and living hours away was not doing my mental health any favors.  I am fortunate enough to have an AMAZING partner and one day he came to me and asked if I needed to move home.  I had a million reasons why that would be impossible/not make sense/possibly be a horrible desicion/be selfish & other things.  He asked me again if I needed to move home.  I swallowed and said yes.  Immediately he responded with telling me that if thats what I need to do, then we would start figuring out what steps we would have to take to execute our grand plan.

Life in my queer bubble popped just before we crossed the border. This was it, no turning back now. I had become accustomed to be surrounded by queers without even trying. 7+ years in a city chalk full of us, you stop batting an eyelash when there is a spotting.  While there are many perks to living in a place with a lower cost of living, crime rate, traffic and general population  there are a few drawbacks that take some getting use to.  (I will get into that later)  Overall, this was the best possible decision we could have made.  I am not sure we will always be living here but I don’t have a doubt in my mind that this is where I need to be and plan on staying for a while. So far we have moved around every year and it feels good to finally feel like we are “home” for a while.

Published in: on January 19, 2011 at 4:05 am  Leave a Comment  
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